These words make me go go!

“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.”

I love the staccato rhythm of this speech; in this rhythm we open our hearts and speak our truth, we practice clarity and take creative action; we learn how to connect with others from our hearts. These words  from José Micard Teixeira made famous by Meryl Streep in 2014,  hit me in the face, burn my heart open, open my eyes wide awake and fill my aging heart, body and soul with bubbly boiling life energy … they make me go go and keep me going to live my life like everyday is a beautiful to die…

What is truth? What is yours?

There’s a lot going on about truth nowadays and in all ages. For now I think of Trump’s inauguration… the president speaking his truth,  his press officer speaking an alternative truth…

On the internet I searched for some truth quotes; there’s loads of them, it seems every important person who ever lived, had something to say about truth:
Marcus Aurelius: ‘Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.’
Albert Einstein: ‘Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.’
Charles Spurgeon: ‘A lie can travel half way around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes.’
This one was later rephrased and made famous by Winston Churchill: ‘A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on.’

Truth doesn’t seem to be easy, most of the time going along with lies and distrust… It seems we long for truth, a collective truth, while truth also seems to be so personally…

What does truth mean to me …?

Last week I watched the documentary film Miss Sharon Jones!, which had huge impact on me. You know Sharon Jones? We lost loads of musical geniality in David Bowie, Prince and George Michael last year; we also lost Sharon Jones, singer with the Dap Kings. She was a female James Brown, a hundred percent soul power, overflowing with life energy, coming from a poor family, never giving up her honesty in whatever situation.

She was told to be ‘too fat, too black, too short and too old’ to be accepted in the music business. She decided to live her own truth till she passed away last November. This documentary film is about how she lived her love and truth during her last few years, from the moment she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. For me this woman is an example of living her truth and an a huge inspiration for me to live my own…
Please, click here to meet Miss Sharon Jones!

 

 

 

 

Would you like to swing on a star?

Spooky & Sue 1974… Sue was one of my first idols… the way she moved, she smiled, her eyes, her fillet, her pants… she totally got it…. I wanted to look like Sue.
In her song Swinging on a star she warned us not to grow up to be a mule or a pig, but to swing on a star instead. The original song is from Bing Crosby 1944, a traditional white guy, 30 years later same song, sung by two beautiful black flower power people, overflowing with a bubbly life energy…

Last week somewhere on FB I read  ‘it’s racism to compare a human being with an animal’…
I was shaken by the intensity of this post and shocked by the thread of friends that followed, blaming and execrating the one who innocently shared seeing similarities between this human being and an animal. Since then I’m so aware of people looking like animals and I noticed people are compared with animals all the time and everywhere… how often I do this myself! My youngest daughter looks like an otter, my middle one balances between a swan and a piglet, my husband is a silver back, I was once told I looked like a hedgehog, last week I told a friend she looked like one of those amazing cows I saw in the polder….

It becomes edgy when a white human being is impressed by a beautiful black human being, seeing similarities with a gorilla…  wow… how tender are our painful spots, how painful our histories, how huge our collective painbodies… how fragile we are… how clumpsy we can be… how easily we unintentionally hit on those awfully painful spots… with the ones we know and don’t know, with the ones we love and are dear to us… I wish we would be able to simply say we got hurt in stead of blaming and giving food for hatred and separation… we would have different conversations if we could be open about our feeling hurt and our hurt feelings …
we could meet…

We could just be there for each other in those painful moments… we could listen, learn from each other’s intentions, apologize, say sorry, give and receive forgiveness… how healing would it be to share our hurts and hearts, to give all our loving attention and hold each other safely right there in our painful spots; with compassion and loving care; we can heal ourselves and others … wounded healers …

Why would we grow up to be a mule or a pig, when we could also be swinging on a star… together… let’s not pass on the light these days… let’s be the light…

Stuck in the middle … ?

needle-on-the-recordHow do you feel when you wake up in the morning and you look outside the window and it’s raining again…

I can’t get out of bed today… it’s raining again, the falling leaves drift by the window…  wild is the wind… it’s cold outside…  today I don’t feel like doing anything… all I want is a room somewhere, far away from the cold night air… I want to hide in my shell… just sitting, waiting, wishing… all I need is the air that I breathe… all I need is love…

A change is gonna come… only change can happen when you change yourself… don’t you know you’re life itself… get ready… now, now is the moment, now is the time… it’s time for everybody to listen to the sound…

All we need is music, sweet music…  it’s time to dance… dance me through the panic ’til I’m gathered safely in… don’t stop me now…
I feel a song in my heart again… I want to break free… I wonna dance with somebody…  let’s come together… let’s dance…  all night long… let’s go dancing in the street, dancing on the ceiling, dancing in the dark! That’s the way I like it! Let’s twist and shout; let’s get loud!

Dance me to the end of love …

To pee or not to pee…

Last week I was in Bpee5erlin to participate in a Mirrors workshop with Jonathan Horan. Where Waves is about embodiment, Heartbeat about expressing the feelings of our heart, Cycles about how we entered this life, grew up, became adults and practice how to close our life cycle, Mirrors is about the theatre of our ego characters. For the ego itself it’s quite an embarrassing workshop, for who we truly are it’s a perfect time to shine…

Those of you who regularly attend 5Rhythms workshops might recognize that before the actual workshop happens the workshop already started…. No exception to the rule this time…

I took the train to Berlin. I love these smooth running ICE trains, long distances of time moving in this soft rhythm of the railway … there I was, just sitting, waiting, reading, following this rhythm… my suitcase with me, full of dancing clothes, healthy food, vitamins and minerals to support my body energy and props to support the theatre of my ego characters….

At one moment I needed to go to the toilet. The bathroom was a spacy one, especially adapted for wheel chair users so that they would be able to easily move in and out. The bathroom had a door, not a flat one, but round; describing a part of a circle while opening and closing. The bathroom was an enormous space and the door was as huge: when I opened it by touching a green button saying OPEN it was like curtains opening, showing the stage. I went in, pushed the red button saying CLOSE, sat down and peed.

In the midst of my peeing the door opened…. That immense round door, like curtains sliding, showing the stage. I saw a small startled woman, totally embarrassed by seeing me peeing… She panicked, tried to do something, not knowing what to do, then trying to close the door again, but on the outside there was only the OPEN button, one could only CLOSE from the inside. In the next moment she turned her back towards me, making an attempt to be the whole door … It was so funny to see that small body trying to be that huge door, her chaotic dance, hands up in the air, trying to make herself high and wide at the same time, trying to prevent others from looking past her. I was on stage, she was on stage, both naked and vulnerable in our own way. It was so funny she was totally embarrassed, in stead of me. That was very kind of her….

In German she explained there was a third button to push; after closing I should also have pushed the button LOCK to really shut the door… I took a break, stood up, locked the door and ended my peeing having so much fun … I really tried to feel some embarrassement in my body, but it was not there… it was so amusing, I couldn’t stop laughing … letting go of ego… what a special preparation for this Mirrors workshop… ready to go….

You wonna know about your power?

Gabrielle4_gr.jpegI am grateful Gabrielle Roth mapped the 5 rhythms; I’m grateful she’s still offering us the power of dance, almost four years after her passing. Her video’s, her music, her energy, her teachings, her worldwide tribe, her books, her words speak strongly to me and I would like to share some of her empowering words with you. ENJOY! ENJOY YOUR POWER OF DANCE!

“Each of us is a moving center, a space of divine mystery. And though we spend most of our time on the surface in the daily details of ordinary existence, most us hunger to connect to this space within, to break through to bliss, to be swept away into something bigger than us.

As a young dancer, I made the transition from the world of steps and structures to the world of transformation and trance by exposure to live drumming. The beats, the patterns, the rhythms kept calling me deeper and deeper into my dance.

Being young, wild and free, it didn’t dawn on me that in order to go into deep ecstatic places, I would have to be willing to transform absolutely everything that got in my way. That included every form of inertia: the physical inertia of tight and stressed muscles; the emotional baggage of depressed, repressed feelings; the mental baggage of dogmas, attitudes and philosophies. In other words, I’d have to let it all go — everything.

At the time, I was teaching movement to tens of thousands of people and, in them, I began to witness my own body/spirit split. Between the head and feet of any given person is a billion miles of unexplored wilderness. I yearned to know what was going on in that wilderness, not only in me, but in everyone else as well.

And so, movement became both my medicine and my meditation. Having found and healed myself in its wild embrace, I became a mapmaker for others to follow, but not in my footsteps, in their own. Many of us are looking for a beat, something solid and rooted where we can take refuge and begin to explore the fluidity of being alive, to investigate why we often feel stuck, numb, spaced-out, tense, inert, and unable to stand up or sit down or unscramble the screens that reflect our collective insanity.

The question I ask myself and everyone else is, “Do you have the discipline to be a free spirit?” Can we be free of all that binds and bends us into a shape of consciousness that has nothing to do with who we are from moment to moment, from breath to breath?

Dance is the fastest, most direct route to the truth — not some big truth that belongs to everybody, but the get down and personal kind, the what’s-happening-in-me-right-now kind of truth. We dance to reclaim our brilliant ability to disappear in something bigger, something safe, a space without a critic or a judge or an analyst.

We dance to fall in love with the spirit in all things, to wipe out memory or transform it into moves that nobody else can make because they didn’t live it. We dance to hook up to the true genius lurking behind all the bullshit — to seek refuge in our originality and our power to reinvent ourselves; to shed the past, forget the future and fall into the moment feet first. Remember being fifteen, possessed by the beat, by the thrill of music pumping loud enough to drown out everything you’d ever known?

The beat is a lover that never disappoints and, like all lovers, it demands 100% surrender. It has the power to seduce moves we couldn’t dream. It grabs us by the belly, turns us inside out and leaves us abruptly begging for more. We love beats that move faster than we can think, beats that drive us ever deeper inside, that rock our worlds, break down walls and make us sweat our prayers. Prayer is moving. Prayer is offering our bones back to the dance. Prayer is letting go of everything that impedes our inner silence. God is the dance and the dance is the way to freedom and freedom is our holy work.

We dance to survive, and the beat offers a yellow brick road to make it through the chaos that is the tempo of our times. We dance to shed skins, tear off masks, crack molds, and experience the breakdown — the shattering of borders between body, heart and mind, between genders and generations, between nations and nomads. We are the transitional generation.

This is our dance.”

After you jump and before you land is god…

another day at the officeLast week Evert and I jumped into this amazing adventure of having our four days 5Rhythms® workshop Into the Rhythms of Life on the beautiful Greek isle of Santorini. This isle has the scenery of a fairytale, its people are warmhearted men and women that flow with generosity.  The dance venue -right on the cliffs by the sea- is a temple … Arriving late on Monday evening with an almost full moon rising, we easily fell in love with this heavenly place …

For this workshop 16 beautiful dancers showed up, coming from 6 different countries, Greek movers from the isle, from other islands, from Athens or elsewhere from the mainland among them. A colourful mixture of eager people; the youngest in her twenties, the eldest in her seventies; two men only, counting for ten though, considering the way they held male energy during this workshop.

All these dancers were committed and ready for a deep dive into the rhythms of their life.  Together we jumped, we dived, we swam, we rode the waves, one after another; we danced starfishes, jellyfishes, seahorses, waves, dolphins, pufferfishes; fully inspired by breathing sea air all through the day. We moved the 5Rhythms® over and over again; diving deeper and deeper; we experienced, expressed, explored, expanded and empowered ourselves, others and our surrounding world. What amazing creatures we are! The 5Rhythms® do work miracles. That we are able to expand them with Eckhart Tolle’s  teachings, meditation and bodywork is a gift and a blessing.

So, we jumped into this adventure and now we’re landing just arriving home. I can clearly feel something in me changed, there’s something new in my body: I understand, feel and embody now what Gabrielle Roth meant by saying:

After you jump and before you land is god…

 

 

 

From Salt Lake City to Santorini

ashesI think I am probably one of the not so many teachers that never physically met Gabrielle. I tried several times, but didn´t succeed; in the Bone Cycles in Antwerp (Belgium) 2009, Jonathan subbed for his mother, for Medicine Dance in Esalen I didn’t make it any further than the waiting list. I was at the August Intensive in Sausalito in 2012, but Gabrielle was not able to attend and finally I was in New York at the unforgettable powerful Slow Dancing in Chaos, the weekend before she passed over on Monday.

I went back to NewYork in January 2013 to be with Gabrielle’s memorial, say goodbye and convey my deep feelings of gratitude. The closest I physically got to Gabrielle was quite unexpectly at the end of the teacher training at SLC in October 2014, when at Snowbird on top of the mountain, surrounded by all the brandnew teachers, Jonathan scattered Gabrielle’s ashes; at that very moment she turned the wind turned and showered us.

Though we never physically met, Gabrielle’s energy is with me almost every day, she’s around a lot, also through her books, her music, her teachings, interviews and video´s. I dance with her, I feel connected with her, I drink from her well; she backs me up and inspires me to surrender into the rhythms of life.

Dancing the 5Rhythms ® is my healing path; an intense process of getting to know myself better, deeper and in all different layers; a never ending process. Dancing brought awareness in me, in my body, in my life, in my history, in my pain and vulnerability. The practice of dancing the 5Rhythms ® healed my deepest wounds. And through dancing the shapes of my body, my eating habits, energy levels, moods, perspectives, work, relationships, everything changed.

The 5Rhythms ® practice gave me living proof that moving, moving, moving into the rhythms of life is a gateway for change and transformation. Now my focus is on living my life like everyday is a beautiful to die, everyday is a deep dive into these rhythms, into life with its endless powers and possibilities. There’s so much to sense, to feel, to know, to celebrate, to find peace with, to share; together we can re-discover, re-connect, re-member and re-joice in the amazing, beautiful creative creatures that we all are. I am thrilled to share this all with you!

Waves2Next week we will celebrate all that we are in a four days workshop “Into the Rhythms of Life” on the beautiful Greek Isle of Santorini. We will explore our moving selves using the 5Rhythms ® dance meditation practice of flow, staccato, chaos, lyrical and stillness ® as our reliable resource, expanded with Eckhart Tolle-based meditation, bodywork and teachings (offered by Evert van de Ven, life coach and my dear husband).

We will share our breath, our dances, our laughs, our hearts, our souls and our inspiration; so much looking forward to this deep dive Into the Rhythms of Life…

How to enjoy your full potential

kijkewatikkan Young children are still deeply connected with their essence, with their full potential and they are confident about it. I remember our middle daughter as a toddler balancing on one foot, other leg right up in the air; exclaiming from sheer joy “lookwhatIcando!”.
Children are full of excellent ideas, they never stop flowing because they have an open mind and belief in theirselves; they can accomplish just about anything.
We believe that with growing-up we lost all of that, which is not true. Not true at all; our potential is simply waiting in our bodies, waiting for our love and attention; waiting for OUR kiss that will bring it back to life again.
Let’s not wait for Prince Charming… we can do this ourselves: we can take care of ourselves, love ourselves, trust ourselves, be proud of ourselves, we can find our inspiration, our unique creativity and develop authenticity to our full potential.
The 5Rhythms® dancefloor is such a wonderful place to practice re-membering with what we think we lost a long time ago and think is lost forever; in moving the rhythms we explore, experience, express, experiment, expand and empower ourselves – and others.
Let’s not hold back, let’s not focus on what we cannot do. Let’s open up; let’s show up, let’s dance! Let’s live to our full potential so that we will joyfully exclaim again: “lookwhatIcando!”

 

Beeldvorming

eye-of-the-drain-sinkTot mijn grote verrassing hoorde ik onlangs dat iemand niet meer bij mij kwam dansen, omdat zij het te druk vond… Jammer, heel jammer, als iedereen er zo over denkt kan ik beter stoppen met wat ik doe. Is dit ook waarom er zo weinig aanmeldingen zijn voor Be Born Again dat ik die toffe zaterdagochtendcursus heb moeten annuleren?  Omdat mensen denken dat het druk is…??? Gabrielle Roth besteed in haar eerste boek enige pagina’s aan redenen die mensen aanvoeren, waarom ze niet gaan dansen. Het is om te lachen en ook om te huilen. Ik run een bedrijf dat ‘een product’ biedt waar ik heel erg veel van houd, waar ik in geloof, dat ik alle mensen van de wereld gun. Vanwege het plezier, de kracht, de energie, de creativiteit, de verbinding, de liefde voor jezelf, de ander en de wereld waarin we leven, de rijkdom en de eindeloze mogelijkheden. Dance, dance otherwise we’re lost, een uitspraak van Pina Bausch, is me uit mijn hart gegrepen.
Vanuit mijn liefde voor de 5 Ritmes® – dit fantastische ‘product’- heb ik veel te bieden, vanuit mijn zijn, vanuit mijn kunnen, vanuit mijn willen, vanuit mijn geloof in leven en in mensen. Klinkt misschien zo soft als maar kan in deze snelle, chaotische, spaced oute social media en marketing wereld. Wat ik in de 5Ritmes® te bieden heb is steviger dan dit alles bij elkaar. Ik geloof niet in hard schreeuwen. Ik geloof in kwaliteit en houd van puur. Eind deze maand ga ik een op Amerikaanse schoen geleeste bootcamp doen voor ZZP-ers. Van de door en door getrainde marketing mensen hoop ik iets te leren over wat ik kan verbeteren aan mijn bedrijfsvoering om jullie dansers te bereiken, in beeld te komen, uit te nodigen en over de drempel te helpen. Die Amerikaanse marketingsfeer gaat recht tegen mijn gevoel in …. ik weet inmiddels dat er op die plekken van weerstand veel te vinden is… ik ga ervoor en kijk er naar uit jullie te ontmoeten op de dansvloer.